Style & Attraction
February 5, 2011 by Arash Mazinani
Filed under All Content, Gentlemen, Style Tips
I think it was probably inevitable that I was going to end up writing this post. I mean after all clothing has played a big part in attracting the opposite sex through out the ages. Back in the day clothes would reflect one’s position in society and therefore someone that dressed well held a higher position and was often considered more attractive. You can also look at the animal kingdom where a lot of their mating rituals are scarily similar to our own. Take the peacock for example, males have a huge plume of feathers that primarily are there to help them attract a mate. They also say that 80% of communication is non verbal so what you say through your clothes is going to have a big impact on whoever it is you’re seeking to attract, before you even open your mouth. So there is no denying that style does play a big part in attracting women.
How do you attract through your style?
I’m definitely not arguing the point that all you need is good style and that you will succeed in meeting and attracting women. I’m pretty sure you will all agree that there is no magic pill, therefore having a good style will not solve all your dating issues. However, as I previously mentioned 80% of communication is non verbal so it does give you the opportunity to convey your personality or a certain message through what you wear. If it’s possible to convey sometime positive and you have control over it why would you not want to use that to your advantage?
If you’re interested in stepping up your style game then I’d suggest you start by having a look at the essentials guide particularly ‘getting the right fit’. Then be more vigilant about the clothes you wear when you go out or meet women. They will notice the little details so don’t think about slacking on your overall image. If you receive any compliments about particular pieces or outfits then make a mental note or even better start to make a look book so you can always try that look again on another occasion.
From my own experience I know friends that have got a lot of attention because of their funky hair cut. Women would actually come over and start a conversation because of it. Other people I know have even gone to the extent of wearing women’s accessories, all be it ones that look fairly unisex and have had similar experiences.
My friends hair was even crazier than this
I don’t advocate you go out and change your look just to get a date or try and impress women. After all your image still needs to be congruent to yourself but being interested in and developing your style will definitely help you become more attractive person and women will notice.
I’d love to hear your thoughts and opinions, especially any female readers?
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Thank you Arashi for such an informative post. I’ve always believed the words of Jean Paul Gaultier
“Elegance is a question of personality, more than one’s clothing.” if we are going to dress let it be because of the way it makes us feel, let it be because it is an outward manifestation of who we are on the inside. When we dress for anything besides ourselves we are not being true to ourselves. Style is about expression, attraction may be the result but not the destination. Dressing for attraction should be secondary. If “80% of communication is non verbal so it does give you the opportunity to convey your personality or a certain message through what you wear” then we do well to make sure that this communication is genuine. If men are dressing to attract women, hopefully they are also doing some “internal styling” as well. What good is a new suit if the man inside is rotten?
Thanks for the comment. I agree in essence with what you’re saying. You should dress for yourself first and foremost. However, I also believe good style does help in the attraction stakes as well. I did mention in the post that I don’t advocate dressing purely to seek external validation from women. However, if a desire to attract women encourages one to take a look at their style and start the journey to develop it, that can only be a good thing.
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I definitely agree with this post. Appearance in general is so important. I won’t date a guy just because of the way he looks, but it sure helps! My boyfriend isn’t big on fashion, he’s more of a jeans-and-tee guy, but he still makes sure he looks clean and put-together. There’s a difference between casual and just plain sloppy.
Thanks Loudmouth
Exactly I think if guys took a little extra time in their appearance when it came to meeting it would make the difference. The amount of guys I meet that miss even the most basic things; good hygiene and grooming is scary.
Being fashion conscience myself, I definitely take note when men dress well, and I always try to make a point to complement them when they do. I agree with THE-LOUDMOUTH too- there’s a big difference between causal and just plain sloppy. Not saying they have to be dressed to the nines all the time, but it definitely plays a big role!
Kathryn
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Thanks for commenting Kathryn!
For me, I think a guy dont need to be impressively dress so good to attract girls, I did meet couple of fashionable man in my life and we didnt get along good, partly because sometimes I feel that it’s just too much, I love appreciative men toward designers, but groom themselves like woman, I think they need to get out of my life like ASAP.
Now comes to my point how to attract girls, I think clean cut and good smell are what I expected from guys, oh also I have this thing about guys who wear weird shoes, I definitely look at the shoes first before I will say hi to a guy.
I said be your self and groom yourself good.
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Thanks for the input Angga, loved reading your feedback.
Hmm…How do I respond to this? Ha! Honestly, I suppose. Here’s what I think. Personally. I cannot speak for all girls, but here’s my opinion:
Style in a guy doesn’t hurt, but it has little effect on me one way or the other. I mean, as long as said guy cares, has personal hygiene and doesn’t look like he just rolled out of bed 24/7, of course!! To me, when it comes to a relationship, I don’t really care if a guy knows what’s stylish, what the trends are and the like. It’s okay if he doesn’t know his Dolce from his DVF. It really is, somewhat cliche, more about his personality, sense of humor, warmth, etc. I might have cared more about it before, but as I grow up I’ve just realized that you can’t always get all your ducks in a row, if you know what I mean, and that certain things really ARE more important. (But side note, if I had to pick one particular style in a guy, I would say somewhat ‘effortless’ is my favorite. Wayfarer glasses, straight-leg jeans, plaid shirts, slightly tousled hair…like he’s not trying too hard! But still–doesn’t matter too much. :]
There’s an old phrase out there that “women dress for each other,” that guys really don’t care all that much what we wear as long as we look good in it… Now, I wonder if that’s really true for the vast amount of men! Do guys care what we wear?? Do girls care more, sort of as a comparison–does she look better than me?! sort of thing. Interesting question, in my opinion.
Good post.
I care what girl wear, however I can’t speak for men on the whole ha ha. Thanks for commenting Jenna I’ve missed you!
I like it when there is a bit of style in a guy, but honestly he can’t overdo it. I’m not into the “metrosexual” guys that spend more time in the bathroom or in front of the mirror compared to yourself. I agree with some of the other comments, if there is a decent amount of hygiene, it works for me. Haha, maybe I have low standards? I guess I don’t like it if a guy is too smooth
Personality & looks are also quite important!
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Thanks for commenting Kim as always I love reading your comments.
This is a great post! I agree that how someone dresses is what women look at initially, even if we don’t admit it! It’s only a minor part compared to personality, but if you’re into fashion and style then you do expect this from a future partner to a certian degree! Even if he’s not up to scratch to start with, personality will always win, but style definitely gets you noticed!
Thanks for commenting. It’s definitely been interesting getting women’s opinions on the subject.
Thanks for the interesting read!
thanks for the comment!
I too agree with THE-LOUDMOUTH and you, of course. Something I’ve noticed is most 18 year-old boys don’t give a fuck about how I dress, which sucks. And, I rarely see well dressed young couples (which I kind of find strange since I live in New York). What gives?
That is weird living in NYC and you don’t see any well dressed young couples. Yeah they say guys mature slower then women I don’t know if that will play a part it in all.